Key Insights:
• Sexual energy is a vital force that can enhance not only sexual experiences but also overall well-being.
• Learning to harness and move sexual energy can lead to profound changes in one’s sex life and personal fulfillment.
• Many men face challenges like premature ejaculation, erection issues, loss of energy after ejaculation and emotional disconnection, which can be addressed through Taoist sexual practices.
• Learning to harness and move sexual energy can lead to profound changes in one’s sex life and personal fulfillment.
• The key to successfully integrating these sexual techniques into your life often begins with solo practice and evolves through deepening your connection with both your body and sexual energy.
Introduction
If you’ve ever felt a little unsure about how to navigate your sexual experiences, you’re definitely not the only one. A lot of men struggle with things that can mess with their confidence, relationships, and overall enjoyment of this beautiful aspect of our life. This is where mixing some ancient wisdom about sexual energy with modern-day needs, can be highly beneficial, helping you unlock a whole new level of pleasure and fulfillment. As someone who’s helped plenty of men go from feeling insecure to fully embracing this powerful energy we all have, I’m here to share some practical tips to help you do the same. So, get comfy, and let’s dive in!”
The challenge many men face around their sexuality
In my younger years, I struggled a lot with premature ejaculation and feeling drained after sex. I still vividly remember one early experience where I felt completely defeated. I had sex with my partner at the time right before an event, and after finishing too quickly, I was left feeling exhausted and didn’t even want to go anymore. My partner’s disappointment was obvious, and I felt both embarrassed and frustrated.
During those low moments, I turned to a book I was reading at that time called The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia. I knew the book had some powerful insights, but I hadn’t quite figured out how to fully apply them yet. Still, I kept coming back to it, doing the exercises, and, little by little, I began to reprogram my mind and gain control over my sexual energy, which opened the door to some amazing new experiences.
Looking back, I realize that a big part of the problem comes from Western culture’s obsession with quick fixes and instant gratification. We’re hardly ever taught to really explore and understand our sexual energy on a deeper level. My own journey, along with the transformations I’ve seen in the men I’ve worked with, has shown me that we need to go beyond merely sexual performance and become aware of our sexual energy, our early conditioning, personal growth challenges, and integrate mindfulness into our sexual practices.
The Taoist Sexual Techniques
So how can these age-old Taoist sexual techniques help?
The wise old Chinese teachers had an incredible understanding of how sexual energy can impact our well-being and help us live a more energized and healthier lifestyle. Lucky for us, some of these powerful techniques have made their way to the West, so we can all benefit from them!
According to Taoist tradition, our bodies are like a network of energy channels where Qi (life force or sexual energy) flows. One of the key principles is to keep that flow smooth and uninterrupted throughout the body for optimal health – kind of like how fresh water in a river keeps moving, while standing water gets stagnant and gross.
The first step is becoming aware of your sexual energy, and this is where deep, intentional breathing during sex is key. It helps ground you, connecting your mind and body so you can feel your sexual energy more clearly. When I practice deep breathing with a group of men and ask them afterward what they noticed, they often mention feeling a tingling sensation in their shoulders, neck, hands, or pelvis – things they’ve never really paid attention to before. Those are usually the first signs of feeling that energy.
Once you start sensing that energy, the next step is learning to guide it with your attention. Syncing your breathing with clenching and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles can help you move the energy from your pelvis to your head and then back down in a circular flow. This is known as an advanced form of the Microcosmic Orbit breathing that combines breathing with pelvic muscle movement.
The third step is incorporating mindfulness and quieting your mind. Through meditation, you can let go of thoughts that weigh you down, become more present, and enhance your experience of pleasure. This technique involves observing your thoughts without judgment and creating a space of stillness where distractions fade away during sex.
Start by Going Solo
I always encourage men to start practicing these techniques solo. You might wonder, “Can I really do this on my own?” Absolutely! A lot of my clients have doubts at first, but once they start practicing, they not only build confidence, they also strengthen their connection with their own bodies.
Take one of my clients, for example. He came to me feeling completely disconnected from his body. After just 10 weeks, he not only learned to control his energy, but also tapped into a deep sense of personal power and new experiences, such as a full-body orgasm without ejaculation. At the end of the course, he said:
“The ability to change the way we experience orgasms is something I never really imagined before this course. And to have an orgasm without ejaculation? If you told me that a year ago, I would be like…haha… cool whatever… but now I can do it and that’s quite shocking.”
Takeaway Points:
As we wrap things up, here are a few key takeaways:
1. Understanding Your Energy: Sexual energy is a powerful force that can enhance your life in so many ways. By learning to harness it, you can transform not just your sexual experiences, but your overall well-being.
2. Start with Yourself: Your journey often begins with solo practice. Get to know your own body and what brings you pleasure. This solid foundation will make it easier to bring those insights and new embodied techniques into your intimate relationships.
3. Embrace the Process: Transforming your sexual energy isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes commitment, practice, and a willingness to explore your sexuality, but trust me, the benefits are totally worth it. Almost every man who has completed my training reported that he has gained a lot through this process.
4. It’s About Connection: Ultimately, this journey isn’t just about boosting sexual performance; it’s about creating a deeper connection with yourself and your partner.
Exploring sexual energy can be a transformative journey, and it’s one that many men are beginning to take. By integrating practices from the Taoist tradition, we can break free from the limitations imposed by societal norms and embrace a more fulfilling approach to intimacy.
Whether you’re facing specific challenges or just want to enhance your experiences, the journey starts with you. Embrace the power of your sexual energy, and you might discover a whole new world of pleasure and connection that you never knew existed.
If you’re curious to learn more about these transformative practices, check out my interview with the talented Qigong teacher, Jared Dempsey. As I shared there
“Once you experience the incredible depths of pleasure available to you, there’s no going back to the old ways.”
