Key Insights
• Multiple orgasms without ejaculation are achievable and can be learned with the guidance of a skilled masturbation coach within as short a time as a few weeks.
• Key techniques to master this include deep breathing, pelvic awareness, mindfulness, and learning to redirect orgasmic energy inward rather than explode during orgasm
• These techniques not only enhance your sexual health but can also improve your overall energy and sense of fulfillment.
• Surrendering to the experience, rather than focusing on achieving, is essential on this journey.
Introduction
Let’s face it: for most of men, orgasms seem like a straightforward event – you build up, reach the peak, ejaculate, and it’s over. But what if I told you there’s a way to have more than one orgasm and it involves learning to orgasm without ejaculating? What if you could feel full-body pleasure again and again without the usual post-climax fatigue?
These are some of the questions I’ve asked at workshops and open evenings I’ve run in Berlin over the last few years. Typically, I get blank stares and a lot of curiosity. Many men have never even considered the possibility, let alone experienced it. But here’s the thing – it’s not only possible, but it’s also something anyone can learn. And I know this after working with many men firsthand.
I’ll never forget the first time I experienced a non-ejaculatory orgasm. I remember checking for drops of semen after the fact because I couldn’t quite believe it was happening. It felt like something was missing and to be frank, at the beginning it did feel mild and made me wonder if this is at all a real orgasm. However, over time, I learned that these subtle beginnings were just the tip of the iceberg. As I fine-tuned my practice and realized that after such an orgasm without ejaculation, I didn’t have any refractory time and could go on and have more of this kind, my body would warm up and reach more intensity from one orgasm to the other. After 20 to 30 minutes into the practice, I found myself experiencing mind-blowing full body orgasms, ones that spread throughout my whole body and left me energized in in awe of what we humans can experience within our bodies.
In this article, I’ll share the techniques that helped me achieve multiple orgasms without ejaculation. It took me more than ten years to master them because I didn’t get any assistance but today I know that with the support of a masturbation coach, in as little as 10 weeks, amazing mastery is possible. So if you’re curious about taking your sexual pleasure to a new level, stick with me.
The Problem: Orgasm Limits and Ejaculation Fatigue
Most men are used to the traditional “one and done” approach to orgasms. They ejaculate, and then they’re typically hit with a period of fatigue, a need to recharge. It’s like the body’s way of saying, “That’s enough for now.”
This refractory period, while natural, can be frustrating. Shortly after you ejaculate, you often feel a sense of closure – your body switches off, the excitement fades, and you’re left feeling drained and numb, with little energy to continue. What if there was a way to bypass this? What if you could tap into a different kind of orgasm that didn’t require this downtime, leaving you fulfilled and full of energy?
How Can This Problem Be Solved?
The key lies in learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation, allowing you to experience full-body pleasure that is not limited by physical release. To achieve this, I focus on three key techniques in my coaching practice that you should use to prepare your body for this type of orgasms: breathing, pelvic awareness, and mindfulness. Once you’ve gained solid experience with these elements, you’re ready for the final key technique you’ll need shortly before orgasm, which I call the Implosion Technique. Let’s dive into each one of those.
1. Breathing: The Gateway to Multiple Orgasms
Breathing is the foundation of everything. The deeper, more controlled your breath, the more connected you are to your body and the sensations you’re experiencing. Most men tend to hold their breath as arousal builds, which creates tension in the body and fast-tracks ejaculation. If you learn to stay present with your breath, you’ll be able to control more easily the flow of your energy and prepare your body to contain more pleasure
Think of your breath as a bridge between your conscious mind and your body’s automatic responses. When you breathe deeply into your stomach, you’re able to stay calm and centered, even as your arousal heightens. In my own practice, I often visualize how my breath is connected with an imaginary sphere of light that moves through my body, carrying energy and sensation to different parts of my body especially ones I feel are tighter and need more of my attention.
One of the breathing techniques that I have seen have a tremendous effect on men is the Taoist Microcosmic Orbit breathing. According to this technique the imaginary sphere of light moves upward from the pelvis to the head along the spine as we inhale and moves downwards from the head to the pelvis back along the front part of the body as we exhale. Interestingly my work has shown me that for some men actually the opposite correlation of inhaling with imagining the sphere of light going down and exhaling moving it upwards actually works better.
I therefore recommend using traditional techniques as inspiration, but not getting too fixed on them. Allow yourself to explore variations with the intention of discovering what your body needs to create a sensation of expansion and openness, especially in your chest, head, and pelvic areas, as your sexual excitement builds.
2. Pelvic Awareness: The Pump of Your Pleasure
Your pelvis plays a critical role in your sexual energy. When you become more in tune with your pelvic muscles, you’ll find that they act like a pump, moving energy throughout your body. This is key to experiencing full-body orgasms. Many men don’t realize how tense their pelvic floor can be, and without this awareness, they’re cutting off the potential for deeper pleasure.
I used to struggle with relaxing my PC muscles and was far from achieving the right balance between tension and relaxation in my pelvic area. My experience showed me that too much tension leads to feeling on the verge of exploding, while too little causes the energy to fizzle out and not build up. When I found that sweet spot – that perfect balance where my pelvis vibrated like the string of a well-tuned guitar – I started to notice that I could redirect significantly more energy from my pelvis to other parts of my body
In my courses, I guide men to connect the movement of the pelvic floor muscles with the breathing. A beautiful way of doing this is by adding a clench while imagining the sphere of light moving upward along the spine during Microcosmic Orbit breathing. Then, consciously relax the PC muscle as you visualize the sphere of light moving downward. Many men, especially in Western society, tend to hold a lot of tension in their PC muscle area and therefore need to focus particularly on the relaxation phase. Here, experimenting with a butt plug can sometimes help increase awareness of the level of tension in these muscles.
Many of my clients describe, after synchronizing their breathing and PC muscle movements, that it feels as if someone suddenly turned the volume up on their energy to a much higher level.
3. Mindfulness: The Art of Surrender
The third key to multiple orgasms is learning how to quiet your mind. Sexual energy is powerful, and as you approach the peak of arousal, it can become overwhelming. Most of us are conditioned to chase the climax, to “do” something to get there. But to experience non-ejaculatory orgasms, you need to practice not doing.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that orgasm isn’t just about “reaching a goal.” It’s a dance between doing and surrendering. I remember one particular experience with an ex-girlfriend in a field after a workshop. We were both frustrated because the workshop had turned out to be different from what we anticipated, so we decided to blow off some steam by having sex. When the orgasm came, it was so surprising and intense that I found myself shouting out the name of a woman from the workshop! The point is, when you let go and allow the energy to flow naturally, you open yourself up to unexpected and often powerful sensations.
The key here is to be especially aware of your thinking process and create intentional distance from any thoughts that distract you from the present moment and your body’s sensations. Another way of putting it is to go inward, entering a meditative state that is attuned to your own body and level of sexual arousal. And yes, meditation is something we can practice during sex and get better at.
With the Three Keys Integrated, You’re Set for the Implosion
Now that you’ve learned to integrate all three keys for opening your body, you are ready to apply perhaps the most profound technique of all here: the implosion
Here you will need to go especially slow when your arousal level is high and you are nearing orgasm. In order for this to work your energy channels in your body will need to be open, so I recommend not trying it before you’ve moved the sexual energy in your body for quite some time. Use the breathing, pelvis activation and mindfulness to prepare your body so that when you orgasm, you are ready to implode instead of explode. Normally men at the orgasm feel the energy exploding outwards from their genitals, but if you can imagine that you are actually guiding this energy, perhaps again in the form of a sphere of light, from your pelvis along the spine upwards, it can completely change your experience.
I often tell my clients that, at this point, they should imagine they are ejaculating into their bodies instead of out of them. For some men, it’s also helpful to clench their muscles at this moment. By imploding, you will be able to draw the sexual energy from your genital area to the upper parts of your body and experience it throughout. If you can do this… voilà! This is your first orgasm without ejaculation, and it opens the door to experiencing as many mind-blowing orgasms as you want, filling you with more and more energy as you continue.
One of my clients was referred to me by his partner. After five Sessions, he managed to overcome the shame he had about his body and learned to have this type of full-body orgasms. One day I accidently ran into his partner and she told me with big eyes, “ Moshe, what have you done with my boyfriend?!”. These techniques are powerful and can have a huge impact on your sex life
Quick Summary of the Exercises to Get Started
Ready to start experimenting? Here’s again are the three exercises you can start practicing and gradually integrate in your sex on the path to becoming a multi-orgasmic man:
1. Microcosmic Orbit Breathing: As you exhale, visualize energy flowing down to your pelvis. As you inhale, imagine it traveling up your spine and into your head. This circular flow of energy can help distribute your sexual energy throughout your body and keep your arousal in control without the need for ejaculation.
2. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Inhale and gently squeeze your pelvic floor, as if you were stopping yourself from peeing, then exhale and relax the muscles. This helps further distribute sexual energy through your body and gives you more control over your sexual energy.
3. Mindfulness Practice: While doing the above exercises, focus on keeping your mind calm and open. Notice any distracting thoughts, but let them pass without attachment. This helps keep your energy centered and present in your body.
Takeaway Points
• Achieving multiple orgasms without ejaculation is possible with practice and can be made significantly easier with the support of a masturbation coach
• Mastering deep breathing, pelvic awareness, and mindfulness are key to unlocking this new level of pleasure and preparing for imploding rather than exploding during the orgasm
• These techniques not only enhance your sexual experience but can also boost your overall energy and vitality.
• The journey requires patience, practice, and a willingness to surrender to the experience.
With time and dedication, you’ll find that these new ways of experiencing orgasm can lead to deeper fulfillment, both in your sex life and beyond. So take your time, explore, and most importantly – enjoy the process!
If you’re curious to learn more about this fascinating topic, check out my video below. 